“I asked God to teach me actual love. He came in the form of a helpless child. This lesson will stay in our hearts”

‘I had a time in my life erstwhile I felt like I couldn't love. I asked God to teach me actual love. He came to me in the most gentle and tender way: in a tiny, quiet, unimposed, sick Mary.“ This is Justyna, the parent of 4 children.

Justyna and her husband learned of another 5th pregnancy on their tenth anniversary. It was a peculiar gift for them due to the fact that they always wanted a large family. Joy accompanied everyone, especially the siblings who couldn’t wait to know whether they would have a brother or a sister.

The beginning of pregnancy did not bring any difficulties. However, the doctor who led Justyna was afraid about the results of the survey conducted at week 11 afraid the doctor. She noticed any irregularities in the baby's head.

The doctor recommended that prenatal examinations be accelerated, but Justyna and her household had already planned a vacation in the mountains. They would not quit on him, especially since the children were looking forward to leaving together.

Time off was an chance for Justyna and her husband to discuss the kid more frequently and to get utilized to a possible hard diagnosis. Unfortunately, the doctors' suspicions have been confirmed. The baby's been diagnosed with headless.

Tears came into my eyes. I wasn't prepared to say that. I asked about the sex due to the fact that I wanted to name the baby. Turns out we're expecting a small girl.– mentions Justyna in the certificate.

Her parents gave her the name Mary and entrusted her with the care of Our Lady.

It was not easy for us to accept specified a situation, but we decided to enjoy our time with it. This attitude towards life here and now allows us and the older children to build a bond with Mary and to experience her presence, even by sensing her movements, listening to her heartbeat with a stesoscope or hugging my belly He's talking.

As Justyna says, the time to wait for Mary was a time of intertwining various moments: entrusting God and the crisis of faith, praying for a miracle and agreeing to what will come. But in all this hard situation, they were not alone.

The household contacted institutions that in Poland supply aid to mothers in hard pregnancy and their families, which supply professional care to disabled or sick children.

The small girl was born through an imperial cut and, although her defect was severe, she cried like a healthy newborn, breathed on her own, and besides had a suckling reflex. However, Marysia was connected to a probe that provided her with food.

As Justyna says, usually children with a skull die shortly after birth, but Marysia was alive.

photo magazine Love each other! nr 3 2022, Justyna, the author of the certificate with her husband and daughter Marysia

The infirmary staff provided the household with comfortable conditions so that parents could be with their daughter. The girl was baptized. Parents were shown how they could feed the baby themselves through the probe and on the second day Marysia was taken home.

The way her brain worked was a mystery. We were happy that older siblings could meet Mary. The children were delighted with their small sister, and we were glad that our small girl had a chance to be with us, to taste the warmth of the household and feel our love “Justyna said.

Gradually, however, Justyna and her husband observed that apnea was more common in their daughter and shortly the minute could come erstwhile her heart stopped beating. Mary left peacefully, in her sleep.

Mary was not miraculously healed, but there were many another miracles for which we are most grateful to God: she was born on time, survived 5 days and six nights, left the infirmary home and could meet her siblings and grandparents. She left peacefully, without suffering, moved many hearts and prompted reflection – mentions Justin.

As Justyna says, Marys' coming into the planet changed the full family, taught them to enjoy all minute of their lives, to appreciate tiny things. First of all, these fewer months of pregnancy and a fewer days of Mary's life strengthened the bond between Justyna and her husband.

I had a time in my life erstwhile I felt like I couldn't love. I asked God to teach me actual love. He came to me in the most gentle and tender way: in a tiny, quiet, unimposed, sick Mary. He came in the form of a helpless, completely dependent child. This lesson of love will stay in our hearts forever She stressed.

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