"In-laws don't get active in taking care of their granddaughter. Meetings are held at my initiative"

Grandparents' relationships with grandchildren can be different, and 1 of Reddit's users, who decided to share their unopposed history, knows something about it. In her opinion, the deficiency of commitment from her in-laws is visible to the bare eye.
A female in a moving entry describes a relation with her husband's parents. The mother-in-law since the birth of her granddaughter (and she is already 2 years old), almost does not participate in her life. Even though they live nearby, they barely see each other. The baby’s father besides does not care about his daughter’s relation with her grandmother, and leaves the initiative in the hands of his wife.

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"It looks like they're expecting me to invitation them to see my baby, but I don't feel like it and I don't think it belongs to my duties" - writes the author. She adds that she had previously tried to encourage her mother-in-law to contact her granddaughter, but without any spectacular effect, due to the fact that most of her proposals for meetings were ignored by her.
He's tired of taking care of that relationship.
As a female admits, she no longer cares about her granddaughter’s relation with her grandmother, and she doesn’t even want her to care for her. She claims that she is perfectly capable of being a parent and taking care of her daughter gives her large satisfaction. Her husband’s suggestions to spend time with her granddaughter on the days she chooses give her a strong sense of fear and increasing anxiety.


The author of the entry gives concrete reasons for her concerns, including:

Lack of experience in caring for a tiny kid - the mother-in-law never changed diapers or showed initiative in regular care.
Lack of cognition of first aid - the parent fears that the child's safety would be at hazard in the event of an accident.
Various values and educational methods - a female assumes that her mother-in-law will not respect her decision to rise her child.
Disturbing the regular regular - the mother-in-law's presence at home would require, for example, additional planning of activities and meals, which would disturb the regular routine.

Conflict With My Husband
An additional problem is the attitude of the husband who defends his parent and attributes to his wife words he never said. "My husband is mad at me and he thinks I'm trying to push his parent away, which is crazy - a female is reporting. Then he adds: I am happy to be a mom and to decide my child’s regular routine.


"There's always something incorrect with them."
We share akin stories with readers. - We didn't make it. Neither my parents nor my husband’s parents are peculiarly active in helping and caring for their grandchildren. They've already refused to aid me a fewer times erstwhile I truly needed it. They explained it with a doctor or a meeting. They always found an excuse. The last time they called was virtually 15 minutes before I went to the doctor's office, something came up, and they couldn't make it. I promised myself that I would never ask for anything again. Better to deal with a neighbour or to hire a babysitter than to trust on them - says Mrs. Ania, parent of 4-year-old Zosia and 6-year-old Tadzia (names have been changed)
But not everyone has specified bad luck with their grandparents, due to the fact that there are those who can't brag about them, just like Mrs Sandra. - My children love grandparents, which is their large credit. My husband's parents live close, and I can always number on them. frequently even in the afternoon or weekends, they take their grandchildren to each another so that I can breathe and catch my breath - our reader confesses.
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