Olivia Maurel: “I am a product of surrogacy. Created for sale, purchased. This is the communicative from my perspective...”

"The kid should never be the subject of a contract and should not be the subject of a transaction above all," said Olivia Maurel. The female was born as a consequence of a surrogate, struggling with many wellness problems, including deep fear of abandonment.

Olivia Maurel, a 31-year-old woman, wife and parent of 3 children, was invited by 3 Czech deputies to talk in Parliament about the problems she struggles with as a consequence of the surrogacy and what children born in this way can face. In a brief but moving testimony, she shared the experience of her life.

I'm a product of surrogacy. Created, put up for sale and purchased. I want to tell a communicative from my perspective, so that you can realize how the surrogacy affected me. Why shouldn't you just regulate it? We must block it for the sake of the kid and, of course, due to the rights of the childrensaid in the Czech Parliament.

She late learned about the beginning of her life. This message allowed her to realize the origin of mainly psychosomatic difficulties she has been experiencing throughout her life. investigation shows that everything that happens around the kid in the prenatal phase has a more or little impact on his life. Even during the period of fetal life, the kid has a peculiar relation with his mother.

As shortly as I was born, I was not placed in the arms of my biological mother; the parent who carried me for 9 months, fed me, spoke to me. I wasn't in my mother's arms, the 1 whose emotions I felt all along, the 1 who was fundamentally the only individual I knew. consecutive from my mother’s womb, I found myself in a cold, harsh environment full of infirmary lights. I was to be sold to complete the transaction. Unfortunately, it was the first trauma that marked the remainder of my life.She told me.

As she said, many people do not realize the serious consequences in the life of a kid and its surroundings. This decision by 1 or 2 people who want to make a fresh life has far-reaching consequences. Olivia stressed that in her opinion, it was a selfish decision. As he says, a kid who develops under her mother's heart is being taken from her and sold to strangers. She besides stressed that she loved the parents who raised her, she did not condemn them due to the fact that they benefited from what was offered. However, she is, like her husband, behind the absolute prohibition of surrogacy. As he points out:

for the sake of the kid and of course the rights of children.

Surogation affects the kid and subsequent generations

Olivia was already a small girl who suffered from abandonment syndrome, felt a fear of breaking up with her parents, and even a short breakup effort caused her to make hysterias that were hard to determine. She besides had difficulty in establishing relationships and making friends. As she says, she was inactive accompanied by the impression that “there is something incorrect with her”. She didn't feel any connection to her mother, she had a somewhat better relation with her father.

Later it was only worse, there were addictions, I was raped, I lived on the edge all the time. I made a suicide attempt... My life wasn't the best. I had a hard time dealing with people due to the fact that I was afraid they'd leave me. I was alone. I was besides very, very lonely. I couldn't get a job. I was emotionally unstable. I had difficulty graduating– she wrote with tears in her eyes.

Her life began to change erstwhile she met her future husband – a man who helped her rebuild her life with large patience and love. Olivia, in her next pregnancy, felt fear of all birth, whether her children would inherit the wellness problems she was experiencing. It turned out that both the daughter and boy took over any of Olivia's traumas. She late managed to get to the truth, although it was hard due to the fact that her birth certificate was hidden, her second birth certificate was prepared.

I proved that I was born from a surrogate. erstwhile I was 30, I did any DNA tests, but it was physical evidence. In fact, I felt like I didn't belong here all the time, something was wrong. I always had problems with my mother, I didn't feel any connection with her, it was a small different with my dad, it turns out he was my biological father. I inactive felt like something was wrong.She told me.

Olivia managed to find her biological mother, which allowed her to realize the psycho-physical states she had experienced. Turns out her mother, an American, was the parent of 4 children, 1 of them, a 2.5-year-old boy lost in an accident at home. After this incident, the female was completely mentally ruined, this trauma was inherited by Olivia.

“Even the date of my birth was decided”

Olivia told her parents' story. They were successful, very wealthy, ambitious, at the tallness of their career development.

I think at any point my parent lost sight of her biological clock. erstwhile parents decided to grow their family, it was besides late. My father was 37, my parent was 48, and she had fertility problems.He's talking.

As Olivia said, the reception and upbringing of the kid from the adoption center was not considered by them at all. My father wanted a biological baby, which is why the surrogate was the only option that could fulfill their dreams. So the spouses were looking for an agency to find them a surrogate. They went to a facility in Kentucky, Louisville.

The agency introduced them to a female who met the requirements of future parents. Information about the trauma suffered by the future surrogate was most likely not known.

As Olivia said, women are theoretically undergoing research, but in fact, at all stage, the fact can be withheld due to the fact that the surrogacy business is making immense profits.

The surrogacy agency saw only what she wanted to see and what she needed, especially the money that this female could make. She said.

Olivia besides stressed how in this procedure the kid becomes the subject of a transaction and the realization of “freaks” of abroad people.

I was actually expected to be a birthday present. Even the date of my birth was chosen – between the date of my mother's birth, who raised me and the date of my birth. Even specified a substance has been decided for me. Can you imagine that? In the surrogate, the date of birth may be planned and this is not in the best interests of the child – asked Czech parliamentarians.

The bond of parent and kid

A young female points out that the specified fact of separating a newborn kid from a parent is already a strong trauma to the kid and has its consequences. This is besides the case erstwhile another person's embryo is implanted in a woman. Also, as it turned out, Olivia inherited from her parent a bipolar disorder.

Olivia met her biological mother. In a conversation with cne.news shared a reflection from this meeting.

[Mother] was happy to talk to me and was truly surprised. She didn't think she'd always meet me. – remembers Olivia.

As she says, this conversation was primarily needed her to get answers to questions that tormented her throughout her life.

I needed something from her: answers to the emptiness that accompanied me my full life. How devious was my birth? And why did she give me up?– reads on the portal.

Olivia besides wanted to talk to the female who gave birth to her about tiny things, things that for many people who know their roots and identities are insignificant and crucial to her due to the fact that they talk about who she is and fill the void known only to those who do not know their roots, ancestors.

They were seemingly insignificant things that were crucial to me, which I did not share with my parent – She said.

It was even a favourite color: purple.

I never knew why I loved that colour so much. And now I know, due to the fact that it's besides my mom's favourite color.This is Olivia.

The intellectual effects of children conceived as a consequence of surrogacy require further analysis...

Anne Schaub, a psychotherapist from Belgium, presents specified a position, which emphasizes that intellectual consequences in children born from surrogacy are not excluded. Her position on children's wellness baskets reminded the cne.news portal.

Dr. Schaub wrote a book on the strength of the bond between a kid and a parent during pregnancy and shortly after birth.

Within 9 months of prenatal life, the kid develops a strong relation with the parent who wears them, which refers to investigation conducted by experts in this field, specified as Winnicott and Bowlby. There is rooted the basis of his [child] identity She said.

A scientist worked with children for 25 years and said:

No kid remains indifferent to a definitive break in bonds with a biological mother. Fear of abandonment is simply a very common consequence of breaking these bonds. The second, frequently encountered, is the search for identity. The intellectual effects of specified separation after birth require further analysis – she wrote.

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