K. Stefanowska: Let us rebuild Poland. Part 7 - RELATIONS

The evil that is now happening in Poland reaches all spheres of our lives. It breaks into our hearts and minds, undermines the foundations, destroys identity, but besides breaks ties, especially household ties. And it's a household that's the foundation of society, a household based on matrimony of man and woman.

In order to last these hard times, the household must stand on a solid foundation, like a home planted with an anti-atomic shelter. specified a foundation for the household is the matrimony of a female and a man, a parent and a father. Marriage, or sacrament, a vow in the Church before God. The civilian contract, as determined by the vows made before the officials of Fr Marek Dziewiecki, is not enough. It is only the power of God manifested in the grace of the sacrament and in the bonds between the sacramental spouses that gives us, sinful people, the strength to overcome our own weaknesses and that which all day stands in the way of building a happy and way to heaven of matrimony and family.

Ideas as always sound beautiful, but how do you put them into practice? There are many suggestions on this subject, there are many readings, sermons, recordings, but I would like to remind you, for starters, of any of the simplest and most crucial rules that nobody teaches at school, and it is simply a pity.

1. Order of love. For a husband, the most crucial man is the wife, the husband. Not children, not parents, not in-laws or friends. And not all of us are the same, due to the fact that sooner or later we will gotta choose in any circumstantial situation and choose anyway. And we don't have time to be incorrect and correct due to the fact that everything can't be fixed and rebuilt later. Of course, this “importantness” is not measured in a simple way dedicated to individual sometimes, due to the fact that sometimes children, especially children, request it more, as is the case with older, sick parents. But the hierarchy must be preserved: right after God’s marriage, then his children, then his parents and family.

2. Life doesn't spoil us, there are fights in the best family. I hope they're as tiny as possible, but if they do, there's a fewer rules to follow:

You keep leaving socks on the floor! erstwhile spoken in anger, it was an attack.

I'm tense about socks on the floor, picking them up, feeling like a maid. - that's calling your problem and your feelings. The another side has a chance to realize why her behaviour is simply a problem, and think about fixing it.

misunderstandings are explained immediately, or at least (sometimes a break in conversation and giving yourself time to cool down works miracles) the same day before going to sleep. It's unacceptable to say things like that. Because you always... due to the fact that you never... they do not lead anywhere, due to the fact that nobody does anything absolutely always or absolutely never. specified texts force you to look for counterexamples, are an attack that needs to be resisted, and do not resolve the problem.

What is it?

3. Children and emotions.

It happens that children, especially tiny ones, despair of a spoiled toy or another substance that is irrelevant to us. How do adults usually react?

It's just a toy, don't cry, I'll buy you a fresh one. erstwhile you grow up, you'll see what real problems look like. Child reaction? Cry and mutiny due to the fact that it feels misunderstood.

But if we say,

You're sorry, it was your favourite toy, you're gonna miss it. The kid will feel understood, and our bond with him will be strengthened. Regardless of our assessment of children's emotions at the minute they are just like this, for a small toy it's almost the full world. It's worth a kid like this to hug and show him that we realize his grief. He will cry and yet deal with the same thing, wipes the tears and goes on playing as long as our misunderstanding does not fuel his emotions.

Good relationships and lasting marriages don't come out of nowhere. They require work, like all that is important, and to thin on God. It is worth practicing a household prayer, it is worth thanking you all day for your spouse, for children, work, home, for everything we have due to the fact that nothing is apparent and there is no certainty that next day we will be with those we love again.

Polish families must be strong, strong God, due to the fact that that is the only way we will last and rebuild the spirit in the nation, we will only rebuild Poland.

Karolina Stefanowska